It is the heart that is important.
SGI President Ikeda says:
Ideal love is fostered only between two sincere, mature and independent people. It is the inner struggle to polish these attributes that is the key. . . . Real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality.
Daily life can seem all too drab and unexciting. Living itself can sometimes seem a strain, and few of us realistically expect what joy we feel to last forever. But when we fall in love, life seems filled with drama and excitement. We feel like the leading character in a novel. However, if you get lost in love just because you are bored, and consequently veer from the path you should be following, then love is nothing more than escapism. What you are doing is retreating into a dream world, believing that what is only an illusion is actually real.